Talk About Cheesecake

Musings, meanderings and meditation for my mind.


Why do we blog?

There is an army of individuals out there in the world, sitting in cafes, kitchens, libraries and living rooms, carting their laptops to beaches, up mountains, to parks and remotes fields. All of them – us – are tapping away putting words to screens, trying to share some part of us with the world.

Why do we do it? Why do we blog?

I don’t mean the businesses, who are clearly marketing themselves.

I mean the people, like me, who just sat down one day and started to blog about things. Parenting, knitting, surfing, traveling, photography, politics, books, feelings – the subjects that are covered are endless. The expertise ranges. Some people are clearly professional writers who have an agenda, an aim, some opinion or knowledge they want to impart. Some people are amateurs who still want to share their experience in a particular area or skill.

Then there are those like me who just want to write. I have no particular aim, I have no specialist knowledge or exciting cause to promote. I just want to write. Whatever words come to mind, whatever subject matter I feel that day.

It is an outpouring of thoughts that run through my mind.

Despite starting my blog for no real reason, it has helped me in a number of ways, some of which were expected and some of which were not.

For example, I am practicing writing. I once thought that I would like to write but wouldn’t know where to start. Well, now I have. The more I write, the more I learn about what I like to share and what I struggle putting into words. Practice, practice, practice.

I am exposed to criticism. At first it was a scary prospect, now I look forward to comments from other people. I started blogging anonymously to the virtual world only, but bit by bit I am telling ‘real people’ that I know about my blog.

I am finding out more about myself. Each time I start to type my story wanders off, often in directions I was not expecting myself. The thoughts that come out can surprise even me.

Some readers have even said I am humorous. I would never have considered myself funny. I have discovered that I like that – but also that if I try to be funny on purpose, I am not.

But one of the main benefits of blogging, for me, is that it releases some inner tension. When I have a problem or am feeling fed up, writing about something relaxes me. Writing about that particular problem helps me clarify the cause. Whereas I get tongue tied when talking, writing helps me express myself clearly.

Why do you blog? How does it benefit you? More importantly, what have you learnt about yourself since you started blogging?

Tell me more – I am interested to hear what you have to say.



In mid December I was nominated for a Versatile Blogger Award by Fec This – I am very excited, chuffed, humbled to be considered. I am also incredibly embarrassed that it has taken me so very long to get around to replying to the nomination.

My general ramblings on this blog are meant to hopefully entertain or reach out to readers – I do write for an audience and for my own practice but without a particular focus or purpose. I write about whatever thought is in my head – some days I am amazed at how much my mind wanders and some days I wonder why I appear to have had no thoughts at all.

So, the rules for this, my first but hopefully not last award, are

  • Display the award certificate on your website.
  • Announce your win with a post and include a link to whoever presented your award.
  • Present 15 awards to deserving bloggers. 
  • Create a post linking to them and drop them a comment to tip them off.
  • Post 7 interesting facts about yourself

My first problem is that I don’t know how to display the award certificate. I hope to work it out quickly.









My second problem is to choose just 15 of the entertaining, thought provoking or light hearted blogs I like to read and follow. Here is my selection. I hope you like them as much as I do.



Keeping it real


The Human Rights Warrior


Breezy Books Blog

At least we made it this far

Off Duty Mom

Bottled Worder

Ned’s Blog

One Handed Writers

Closed the Cover

A breakfast serial

More than a niche

Seven interesting facts about me –

1. I believe my best choices are made on the spur of the moment

2. I painted a large dragon on my bedroom wall as a teenager. It’s still there

3. I love to explore new countries but I am always nervous of the actual travel part

4. I managed to get the stupidest puppy in the litter

5. I have a Mini Countryman

6. I didn’t eat red meat for 16 years until I got a craving for steak while pregnant

7. I never seem to finish anything I start, even though it drives me barmy.

Well, I hope some of that was interesting. Enjoy the blogs I have linked to!

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Bucket List Update – November 2012

In September I made a bucket list of resolutions. This is just a brief look back to see what I have achieved so far.


The dreaded diet – well, it’s ongoing. I am back on the Cambridge Diet and I am past the nasty 3 day mark. Even though the weight is not yet dropping off I already feel healthier and fitter. I read an interesting blog earlier which implied that a ketosis based diet was good for the brain as the energy the body was producing passed from blood stream to brain easier that energy produced from carbohydrates and sugars. (I have probably confused the science of it) I don’t know if tis is true or accurate but certainly I am more aware, more awake, on this diet.

If anyone knows whether this is scientifically correct, I would be interested to know more?


In addition, it is now 61 days since my last cigarette. Not a huge number, but I am pleased.


I am writing more and more and contributing to my blog. Whether it goes well or not is probably down to you, the reader, to decide. But I am writing and that was the aim.


Just a few more things to work on then before it’s time to think about New Year resolutions. If I choose to make any, that is.


Blog Hop – a great way to meet new bloggers

This is an entirely new concept for me, but it sounds like fun. I am taking part in a Blog Hop, to discover great new blogs to read.

To participate I need to answer some questions, so here goes  . . .


Who Am I?

I am a mum, a wife. I work part time from home.

I am curious that in describing who I am, I always start with being a mum. That is apparently the most defining thing about being me right now. I am also a youngish woman (I refused to accept that mid-thirties makes me old or even middle-aged, therefore I must be young)  interested in reading, writing and all things wordy. I love to drive.

Why did I start blogging?

Partly because I always feel I have something I want to say, but I don’t know who to say it to. So now I am just putting it out there to see who may want to listen. Partly experience. And now I have started, partly because I cannot stop.

Which post am I most please with?

Gosh, difficult! I felt the most when I wrote this post about my wonderful and much missed nan. I enjoyed writing this one as I found  the whole situation hysterical.

Which post had the most response?

Easily the post I wrote ‘Are weddings a child free zone?’ as it was Freshly Pressed. I was surprised, firstly that it was chosen to be FP’s but also at the variety of opinions I got back in the comments – great to get some feedback and I do like to hear different opinions, so I greatly enjoyed the experience.

Which blogs do I like reading?

I enjoy reading these blogs for different reasons. I’m not going to tell you what they are, I think you should take a look and choose for yourself!


Geeky Book Snob

Emma Wolf

Bucket List Publications



Finally, here is the link to the start of the Blog Hop to get you going!


Lesson 2 – Being over prolific is not necessarily a bonus

As I am new to blogging, I thought I would keep a running log of any lessons I have learnt as I go. Hopefully it might be of use to other new bloggers. More likely, someone with more experience may drop by to correct my assumption and possibly give me some much appreciated advice as to where I am going wrong. 


In the last few days I have got round to writing a number of posts, which I immediately added to my blog. However, now I think about it, this may not have been the best approach.

Since every new post appears on the ‘front page’ of my blog, any followers who receive a mail about there being a new post may just pop in, read the top piece and then move on to another blog. Which, not wanting to sound greedy, means they haven’t read all of my posts. 

I am not assuming everything I write is interesting to everyone, or anyone. Or that it’s great. But the aim of writing a blog (for me, anyway) is to try to reach an audience. Ergo, I want to keep that audience until they have read every word.

In addition, there are days when I don’t write. Had I saved some of my posts ‘for a rainy day’ then I could have posted them in a dry spell.

In summary – being over prolific doesn’t see to me to necessarily be a good thing. Save something for tomorrow!